Make it or break it

So, to start off, today at work I slammed my finger in the cash register drawer. My left index finger. So typing right now is painful. You'd better be grateful for this blog post because I AM IN PAIN FOR YOUR ENTERTAINMENT HERE PEOPLE. But hey, I love you so it's okay. Don't feel tooooo guilty about reading this...(kidding. feel super guilty.)

Not 100% sure this gif fits...but I thought it was cute

 And moving on to my second mini-topic for this post:  To all of you who have heard me complain about work, and my co-workers, and my managers, (if you don't know I work at a grocery store as a cashier) I apologize. In all honesty, it's a little fun to complain because I feel better after. (Isn't that what people usually say DOESN'T happen?) Anyway, my job is pretty much perfect for me right now. I can take off basically whatever time I need, it's close to my house so I can walk to work if need be, some of the managers aren't bad and most of the co-workers are people with whom I can get along. BAM! NAILED THAT GRAMMAR 

I guess what i'm saying is, I should really not  complain as much as I do and to all of you to whom I have complained, I am sorry. 

 

 Can we all just agree right now that my grammar so far has been on point? Okay? Okay. (WHOA, THAT'S LIKE A TFIOS REFERENCE!)

And so we will be moving on to the real meat of this post. The thoughts and ideas in the following paragraphs will be mediocre at best, and I don't expect to get anything deep written down, but you know what? That's okay. I'm not a prize-winning writer so I can do what I want.

What would you consider to be make it or break it?

I know I have talked in the past about what I'm looking for in a guy, and I probably will again because that was in one of my first few posts. AKA probably nobody actually remembers it. (Okay okay, I really don't have any idea what I wrote about either.) So, today, and for the past few days, I have been thinking about what is a make it or break it thing for me. 

I'm going to give a short list of qualities that someone might have for a guy (or girl I guess) and use that as an example. And I am going to use "he" but you can think "she" depending on whatever haha

1. He has to be good with kids.
2. He has to love God more than he loves me.
3. He can't swear.
4. He has to be at least 5'8".
5. He has to be athletic.
6. He has to be generous.

Let's pretend for a minute that those were all of the things I said I wanted in a guy. (Some of those are true, some aren't, for the record.)  Which things would I really, honestly, hold to and not compromise on? Say I found a guy who was really sweet, athletic, good with kids, 5'9", and put God as his first priority, but he swore. He didn't see anything wrong with cussing every once in a while if he was upset. Would I let it slide because everything else about him was pretty good? Some of you reading this might think, "yeah of course you should just go out with him. I mean, swearing isn't all that bad, and if he loves God then it doesn't really matter." 

Okay I agree that that was a little dramatic, but my point is, if you set standards originally, you shouldn't let things that were important to you slip away just because you find someone that meets the majority of your principles. What if you meet someone who has all of the qualities in the above list except the height? Unless somehow height is absolutely 100% a deal breaker for you, that particular thing could probably be set aside. Do you see what i'm getting at? You need to decide now what standards you're going to hold your Prince Charming to, and which ones you might be comfortable giving up. But if you specify qualities that are either in the Bible, or that differentiate between right and wrong, you should decide now to stay firm on.  

What is going to be a make it or break it deal for you in a future relationship?

*I'm not sure if all of those sentences make sense; I am the queen of run-on sentences. You got the gist of it.*

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Let's Do an Exercise

I'm going to write yet another list, of just tons of qualifications you could have for a future boyfriend/girlfriend and I want you to pick out the ones that you would like them to have, and then I want you to choose the ones that they absolutely have to have, no question. If there are any that you think of in addition feel free to add them to your own list. I think everyone should have a list of wants and a list of needs per-say for their future partner. 

• Practices humility
• Is generous
• Is good with kids
• Loves God more than he loves you
• Is a good protector
• Diligent and hard working
• Doesn't swear
• Doesn't drink
• Sense of humor
• Is romantic
• Is taller than you
• Loves the outdoors
• Is 100% genuine and dedicated (that's rather vague...take it how you want)
• Keeps short accounts
• Doesn't push your boundaries
• Appreciates your high standards
• Gets along with your family
• Gets along with his family

Read over your list again. And again. You should have these things drilled into your brain so that if you find yourself getting interested in someone you can immediately see if they (I don't want to say "aren't good enough for you") but I mean that's basically what I mean. You don't want to date, and eventually marry, someone who holds completely different standards than you, and does things that you don't agree with. 

 

yes, yes I am tired of thinking

Sooooooo, to finish this for the night, I will overload you with cuteness and whatever else I come across on Google. Google is the best thing about computers. 

I never look that cute when I do it

I laughed harder than necessary at that

Poor guy. NOT

We've all done this. Be honest.

 

That's GORP you young kids

And that concludes what has been the longest post i've ever done. Just kidding, I have no idea if it was the longest. My guess is that it hasn't. It just seems like the longest because it took me like seven thousand hours to write...

W-what? No? Uh okay...

Sleep good. 

XO