Your best friend was just asked to prom. By the guy
you like— who is sooooo attractive. They’ve been on three dates since and now
they are a couple. You just renewed your subscription to “Sucks to be Single” Magazine.
I haven’t been in that exact scenario but one very
close to it. Doesn’t it feel terrible to
be single? Okay. That, my friend, is a lie. The lie that you need a boyfriend to be
happy/complete/worth something/fill-in-the-blank. Truth is, you DON’T. You’re saying “Yeah, yeah, but it still feels
bad to be alone.”
Ready for a
mind blow? You’re not alone! “OOH!
OOH! I KNOW! God is with me, right?” You read that in a sarcastic voice. But yes!
If that doesn’t do anything for you yet, then keep reading.
"Nobody really believes that, do they?"
ANSWER: Yes, there really are people who believe that quote.
Okay think about this:
It’s totally fun to try and pick out the guy we want
to marry. We’ve all done it at least a few times…probably even more than a few
times. But we don’t always have the best taste do we? God is a bazillion times
better at matchmaking than us craaayzay females…sorry to crush your dreams girls.
God will literally put the perfect guy in our lives at
the perfect time. Doubt me? Ummm ask any Christian you know who is married. He
will just give us the right guy!
So…WHY ARE WE RUSHING HIM??? Yeah my
mind is pretty blown right now.
Focus on getting yourself ready. We have insanely long lists of things we want
our guys to be (generous, respectful, sincere, compassionate…etc.) but we
probably don’t have lists half as long of things we want ourselves to be. We need to realize that we have to work on
the things that we ourselves want in a guy ‘cuz trust me…we are not as ready
for a boyfriend as we think. XO Charlotte
So there’s this guy... He is so great I practically want to marry him. Want all the details? If you're a girl (and quite possibly if you're a guy too...i don't know if guys like this kind of thing) you probably do.
Okay so he’s the
youngest of eight kids, he’s a very strong Christian and leader, and he has a
great, high ranking job. He’s handsome,
he has big, bright eyes, he’s musical, (he plays the harp actually) he’s smart,
and his name is David. I’ve actually
known about him for a while.
I met him in 1
Samuel 16. Yep, David from the Bible.
You just did one of these ^
Doesn’t he sound
kind of cute awesome though? He was so obedient to God and he was a king! You should go read about him.
Guys Listen
Up! It sounds to me like he sets
somewhat of a high standard. When you read about him he sounds so…perfect. (I
KNOW HE WASN’T PERFECT STOP JUDGING ME.)
No, you will never be a king or kill a
giant (probably/I hope not…) but you can follow God and do incredible things
for Him! Go read some more about Daniel here and find one thing about him that
you can work on starting today. You got this guys! XO Charlotte
P.S. Actually do what I just said. You can read about Daniel here, and here, and here. Not to be bossy...but you really won't regret it. I promise.
This is the fun part! At least for me… I’m going to
describe for you my dream guy. Before I
do though, I have a reminder: this is going to describe a fictional character.
There isn’t a single guy on earth who can perfectly fit my description. And
another thing, If and when I ever find the right person to spend my life with,
I will not be the one choosing him. I trust that God will bring him into my
life, so I will be okay if he doesn’t possess all of my unfeasible
qualifications. Can you imagine me saying to God, “sorry, you must have made a
mistake. I specifically said he has to have green eyes.” NO! That would be
insane! I’m just going to start from the beginning and write things down as I
think of them; the first one is my number one but the rest are in no particular
order.
1. My Prince Charming has to love God more than he
loves me. The reason I don’t just say “I want a Christian guy” is because some
people profess Christianity but God isn’t the most important thing in their
life. I want a guy who is so into God. How cool would it be if your boyfriend/girlfriend
loved you with God’s love? Pretty darn cool.
2. My Prince Charming is handsome. Picture this: If
you could kind of put Chris Hemsworth, Johnny Depp, Channing Tatum, Chris Evans
and Kellan Lutz together into one person…really though. Who doesn’t want to
date someone cute? If I could create a person here is my picture: He would be
taller than me (of COURSE) but not too tall.
5’7”ish. He would have green eyes, wavy, dirty blonde hair, and he would
be ripped. Ehhh no, I would look too scrawny. Change that to slightly muscular. Okay and my
dream guy has an Australian accent (that’s the Chris Hemsworth part) and no
facial hair. Blechhh.
Yep they're good
3. My Prince Charming is musical. It is 100% true that
a guy who plays the guitar is more attractive than one who doesn’t. If he could sing and play the guitar…*sigh*
you get the picture. My dream is to have
someone write a song for me, and sing it to me.
4. My Prince Charming has to be spontaneous. I am a
very spontaneous person, and I don’t do very well with those people who are so
meticulous in planning every detail way ahead of time. Who doesn’t love a
random picnic or party?
5. My Prince Charming can’t be a terrible junk-food
eater. WAITTT before you stop reading in disgust, I don’t mean that he can only
eat salads and grilled vegetables. I only mean that I want him to be conscious
of healthy eating and make an effort to eat at least some foods the way God
originally made them before we sucked the nutrients out and added sugar and
preservatives.
6. My Prince Charming needs to be a strong leader.
Yeah, yeah. Everyone says that. But just
to clarify exactly what I mean…He has to be grounded in God so that he can lead
other people to God. He has to be a good example to other guys. Ya know, one of
those people everyone wants to be like.
7. My Prince Charming has to be funny. He doesn’t
necessarily need to be the life of the party, but he has to appreciate a good joke, and at least tolerate—if not
contribute to—my sarcasm
8. My Prince Charming, without exception, has to be
accepting of my weirdness. Self-explanatory I hope. Yes, I love impromptu dance
parties, singing at the top of my lungs, taking insane pictures, laughing too
much and not getting enough sleep. Deal
with it bro.
9. My Prince Charming neeeeeds to like watching
football, Psych, (the best show on earth, may it rest in peace) old shows like
the Brady Bunch and The Three Stooges, and T.V. singing competitions. Enough
said.
10. My Prince Charming will treat me like a person, then a princess, then a Greek Goddess, then a person
again. That’s a rule from Psych…but I like it!
Finally, these are just a couple
random things that I thought of:
Likes traveling and animals, is good with kids, is
generous, has a good fashion sense, enjoys taking walks and having campfires,
loves watching totally random YouTube videos, can cook, likes Starbucks, and
isn’t allergic to dogs.
If this guy was real I would marry him. XO Charlotte
I don’t plan on going out with anyone unless
I feel like they’re the person God wants me to be with. But, that doesn’t mean I don’t notice when
there’s a really nice guy. Believe it or
not, you can be a Prince Charming without actually picking up a girl! What I’m
talking about is the guy who talks to girls all the time, but not to get their
number. Just to be nice. The guy who gives up his seat for a girl. The guy who
is protective of his sisters. I’m
talking about the kind of guy who doesn’t find his worth or purpose in having
lots of friends; who strives to do what would please God rather than whatever
happens to be popular.
Don’t we all know a few of those people who are just
really nice? Like you never feel uncomfortable around them because they treat
you like a super good friend? That is exactly what I’m trying to say. When you have so much of God’s love in you
that it literally spills out to other people through you. Guys, be that person.
I look at some guys and
say “If I ever date someone that is the exact kind of guy I will look
for.” XO Charlotte
Pretty much every girl wants to find her prince
charming, right? And just about every guy wants to be that prince charming for
a girl. But seriously, what is a “prince charming” anyway? According to most
Disney movies, he is a cute guy who shows up, (usually on a horse) sings a
song, and marries the girl in like 3-4 minutes. That’s not good enough guys.
Basically I’m going to share some of the things I’m looking for in a guy, some
secrets for guys and girls, and some overall advice on how to be a “real guy”…
a girl’s Prince Charming. Oh and whatever other random junk I think of to share with you beautiful people...XO Charlotte