Some of the things I write about aren't really important. Like not nearly as important as finding the perfect cute outfit to wear to a party, or deciding which kind of cake to eat, or whether to go to a movie or save your money to buy high-heeled sneakers. Because those things are really important.
This, however, I believe is very important.Today's post topic? Drum Roll Please...
DON'T SETTLE!
And when I say "don't settle" I am talking about guys. *I just typed fuys by accident. Yes. I am talking about fuys. hahaha*
This is something that I have given a lot of thought to, and I apologize ahead of time for writing things that I may have touched on in previous posts...but if it's this important it couldn't hurt to read it over again, right? Right.
1. God has hand-picked your spouse
God has the exact person He wants you to marry just waiting for you. He (God) is waiting for the exact right time to put that person into your life. Maybe He already has! You never know! Okay, so you don't want to go trying to pick out your own guy. Let's be real...we suck at choosing things and making the right decisions. This shirt is the cutest thing I've ever seen! It is my favorite shirt in the world so i'll buy it for $32. *And then you get home and you have nothing to match it and you really don't like it anymore*
Do you really think you have the ability to pick the actual right person without God? Yeah, sure, there are non-Christian people who are married, some even happily married, but because they aren't Christians their marriage really has no point. I'm darn sure that God does a good job matching people together, and what could possibly be better than spending your entire life with someone that you love and who encourages you in your walk with God? Let God choose for you. Don't try to take over His job.
2. Patience Is a virtue
Waiting stinks. I HATE waiting. I do my nails and I can't sit still long enough for them to dry even though it takes like 5 minutes. And even though I know they'll get ruined if I use them before they're dry...I use them before they're dry and I ruin them. Because I hate waiting. This seems like a bad cycle does it not?
To go off of what I said in #1, we really have to use self-control and not market ourselves as 'single and ready to mingle' even if we might technically be. So basically don't flirt and don't try your hardest to attract attention to yourself because that is NOT God's idea for a way to find a husband.
Don't you love hearing people's stories of how they met? He bumped into me after biology class in college and he helped me pick up all my books and then we went to coffee. OR I met him at a young adult's Bible study and was the nicest guy I'd ever met. It would totally be awkward if someone asked you and your husband how you met and you were like "umm I flirted with him at school every time I saw him and eventually he asked me out". Awkward. Really, if you're patient God will write your perfect love story and believe me, He doesn't need a co-author. Or a backseat driver.
3. Standards are vital
Standards are one of the MOST IMPORTANT THINGS OF ALL!!! Take notes. You think i'm kidding!? Standards are what determines how far you should go with a guy. I'll get into mine later in another post because as I said, I absolutely can not stress it's importance enough. The danger of settling for a guy who likes you but you don't really think God put in your life to marry, is that you will be very tempted to go farther than you would like to go, or do things you really shouldn't do. If you were with the guy with whom God wanted you to spend your entire life, hopefully he will have the same standards for purity as you do and he won't pester you and push you to do things that are inappropriate.
4. Keep God as your number 1
Until you find "the guy" stay super connected to God. He should be your best guy. If you stray away from Him then there's going to be no way you could know who He wants you to spend your life with. It's not like He's going to text you:
Hey! :) Fyi I saw this guy at your youth group...he's super cute and you should marry him. Ttyl Ily, God <3
So I'm not kidding, you really have to be "on top" of your relationship with God and talk and listen to Him on a regular basis. Like always. Constantly. Then you'll be able to recognize promptings from God.
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Some of that stuff was a little random, but no less important. I have used the word important WAAAY too many times but I can't think of a synonym right now. You can't settle for a guy who isn't the one God chose for you. I don't mean to dis all guys and say they're all terrible or anything, but i'm speaking hypothetically. He might push you to do things that aren't appropriate, he might lead you away from God and he might just not be that cool. God's pick is SO, better girlfriend. He's your prince charming.
That's all I got for tonight. I apologize for the total seriousness of this post and the gross lack of gifs, pictures and all things interesting. So, because I love you, I may throw something short and fun together in a few minutes to lighten the mood ;) Maybe. Maybe doesn't mean yes.
XO Charlotte
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