The One

Two posts in a day? What the heck. Sure.  This has been floating around in my head so yeah, what the heck.

How do you know if you should say yes?

Yes to what?

Yes to "the one" of course. Because what else would I talk about?

I think about this all the time. I mean like every day at least. Every day at least? Charlotte how much more often can you get than every day?

How am I supposed to know of the person who asks me out is the person God wants me to date? How am I supposed to know if they're "dating material?" 

Well, there are a few things. 

And yes, this post is going to be written in about seven hundred small paragraphs because that's what I feel like doing. And I'm just going to jump right In mid-thought because that's where my mind currently is. 

(My face sixty percent of my life)

I don't believe in dating "just to date." Like dating to get experience or something? I don't understand that. I believe that dating leads, should lead, to marriage. I mean, I totally get people who think they found the one and it turns out not, so they don't get married. Like duh. I'm not so crazy that I think anyone who dates has to get married. Of course that isn't going to happen. what I mean is, I'm not just going to say yes absolutely to any random person who asks me out. I will say yes if I feel like the person is maybe someone I want to spend my life with. 

Like yeah I know. I'm only 18 and I don't need to find a husband right now. I know that. But that doesn't mean that I'm going to date seventy guys in the meantime. I'd much rather wait for the perfect perfect guy to go out with and love exclusively, and not have to deal with multiple exes and broken hearts. Ain't nobody got time for that. I'M SERIOUS.

Another thing. I feel like people put too much emphasis on the word date. I like how it used to be a long time ago. Dating VS. Going steady. Here you go: I honestly don't like when people say they're dating right away. Okay if someone asks me out and I say yes, I hope they know that i'm not committing to them for like ever. I want to go on a few dates and see how we interact. No, I'm not "going steady", or "dating" as people call it nowadays.  A date is not dating. If, after the first couple dates, I want to actually...be with them I suppose, then i'd call it dating. but not initially. I hate the pressure people put on other people going out. Like yeah, maybe I go on five dates with someone and we decide we just want to be friends. Everyone will say we broke up. UM NO THANKS NOSY PEOPLE we weren't technically "dating" yet. So chill your little buns out.

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How do you know if the guy (or girl as the case may be, whoever is reading this) you meet is the one God wants you to be with? To spend life with? I think I'll know when it's the right guy by talking to God. I do. I'm going to pray the heck out of it. The heck. That's definitely not saying that I won't go out with someone a few times before I make any life changing decisions, heck. Life is all about trial and error. But in the end, In the palm of who's hand are we? Not our own, idiots. God's hand. Keep that in mind.

XOXO
Charlotte